We did not come into life born with respect. We learned it, both for self, others and good ideas. In fact respect, which is a form of care, is such an important skill that people who are not taught it can often live barely civilized lives. A good dose of respect for others, for wisdom, for thoughtful behaviors allows us to learn and grow continuously, well past our childhood years. Lack of respect can actually stunt us since it can close our eyes and ears to the means to live a life that exercises all our vital traits. People who are not respectful of themselves and others often have not been what is now called “parented.” They grew into adult bodies, but not adult styles, and sometimes simply do not know how to act toward other people and in situations that call for genuine consideration.
"Manners"...
In the cave man days of civilization, people of my generation were taught a thing called “manners.” Nowadays that term is often derided as calling for “contrived behaviors,” but that belief misses the point entirely. Mannerly behavior was the doorway to real respect; it was a means of demonstrating concern for another’s well being using language and behaviors that were considerate of other’ feelings. It means that sometimes we approached another with needed sensitivity rather than thoughtlessly bursting through the door, heedless of others’ desires.
Meanness and careless language...
I have watched some folks…who should know better…just scour the atmosphere with meanness and careless language under the guise of “telling their truth,” which was just a way of saying anything they wanted, regardless of who might be hurt. Certainly if we really cared about listening and thinking about general well being, respect for what is at hand would be a natural response and a great opportunity for healing.
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