Grief is the great equalizer. It finds the poorest and the richest among us, and no matter how smart we may think we are, we are no match for it. Usually we equate grief with the death of someone we love, and surely this is so, but it often accompanies many kinds of deaths…the death of a job we loved or perhaps the death, through the loss of a life circumstance, that can never be the same again.
Our quiet aloneness...
No matter how slick and crafty we may be or how fast our two-step is, we cannot outrun it, for it will find us some night in our quiet aloneness when there is nothing and no one to slow the flow of our tears. Like it or not, grief is an unwanted teacher. In its experience we will discover just how deep we can go and how far we can be stretched.
Move through it, we will...
So what’s to be done then? Make noises; tell lies about how well we’re doing? Maybe not… but being in the company of people who care about us and will lend an ear without trying to “fix” us, this is a good path that helps us move through grief…and move through it, we will.
Grief will not kill us...
If we have any sense of self…and we do, no matter how battered…we will discover that grief will not kill us, even though we might sometimes wish that it could… anything to end the pain. But, darn, life by its nature is emergent. It just keeps on coming in spite of our current incapacities to enjoy it very much.
And we will be happy again...
It may be true that some things will never be what they once were, but, trust me, though it may take a while, the dawn does come up after the dark night… and we will be happy again.
A good and timely reminder, thank you.
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