On Change

How often have we heard the saying that “the only sure thing there is, is change,” and many of us have found this maxim to be quite accurate. Hopefully most change will occur gradually, very much like watching the infant grow into adulthood. But many times a sudden change comes about that catches us off guard, the ending perhaps of a relationship that we thought was doing just fine. Or perhaps a change in the status of a relationship that calls for the immediate adjustment to a living condition.

Forced to cope...

Whatever it may be, sudden change brings a shock to the system, something to be dealt with, even if it is considered a positive change. When something disturbs the status quo, we will be forced to cope since we really can’t hide in a corner and pretend nothing is happening.

Change builds character...

Someone once said that change builds character. I say it can do that while showing us just how much more work we have to do on ourselves! Some of the most demanding change involves the loss of a loved one to death or to the change in a relationship due to a permanent disability. We will be challenged to grow up very quickly in some ways, regardless of our age, but we all learn the value of proper self care while we are doing so. Putting ourselves dead last on the “good” list only makes things worse. Lots of love will be needed, spread around in every direction, and some of it will need to spill over onto us. If more time, care, attention, patience and wisdom is needed, more active love will be also!


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